Wednesday, March 12, 2014

The final stretch

            Our COS dates are announced and we’re only a measly 50 days away from the COS conference! Of course, I realize that these both mean very little to anyone who hasn’t been turned into a Peace Corps clone. So, for the people out there who haven’t adopted the collective identity, COS stands for Closure of Service and the conference is a sort of “fyi debriefing” and explanation on “how to leave the country” (paperwork, visa stuff, official PC reports, etc.). It’s a big deal, okay?
            What the whole thing really means, though, is that the 60-some other Americans and I who came here in 2012 are about to be released back into the American population. I know how that sounds. Like we’re a bunch of genetically mutated dogs about to be loosed into the wild to spread our mutilated genes. I won’t lie; I’m looking forward to it and have been for a while now.
            My reasons may not be exactly what are expected. I mean the obvious ones are there, of course. Family, friends, Idaho. What surprises me is how little those reasons have a physical draw on me. Don’t be offended. I miss each and every one of you to death. But I can’t lie and say that every day away from my life with you has been agony. In some cases, actually, it has been enlightening. It’s in the nature of my relationship with you that is so fascinating. I compare my relationships with all of my friends and family at home to the friends and “family” I have here. And I just don’t get it.
            There are people here whose names I don’t know, whose jobs I have little comprehension of, and whose lives will continue without me. The time I have spent must seem meaningless to them. Yet they say I am a part of them, that I have become Mongolian. They tell me they’ll cry when I leave. They ask if I’ll remember them and when I will come back again.
            It’s truly touching, but I can’t help wondering: can two years in a life of seventy really mean something? I guess I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that I won’t change anything. Not on my own, at least. I’m here simply making foreigners visible to a country that has spent the last century in isolation, both by its own choice and by the indifference of the outside world. Yet here they are, drawing the eyes of many foreign powers due to discoveries of unutilized resources. And now they pay the price for choosing isolation. Their lack of relations, either good or bad, leaves them susceptible to being muscled about by the rest of the world.
            And so, they call to America, whose philanthropic endeavors are well enumerated, to ask for a helping hand. America, in turn, sends people like me and says “Go help them develop!…and make sure whatever you develop is sustainable!…oh, and here’s a bunch of strategies the big wigs at Peace Corps Washington dreamt up to make you an effective volunteer. Because, you know, they served in Somalia back in 1978 and that’s pretty much what it’ll be like for you in Mongolia in 2012…see you in two years.”
            So I spent two years here. I tried to spearhead projects and failed countless times. I got exhausted and frustrated. I sometimes feigned sickness to escape and pretend I never left America. Despite those times, I have remained in the eye of many Mongolians. It’s like a bad reality TV show experiment. But it works, and that’s why Peace Corps remains a prominent government entity. Because I will go back and remember not my failures and not my desires to disappear, but my incidental stardom.
            It’s a problem returned Peace Corps volunteers tell all of us still in country. “When you get back, no one will care about you anymore. Nobody will want to work with you. You won’t get invitations to eat with the governor. You won’t matter. You’ll go back to being a face in the crowd.” Well…maybe I will feel that way. But I’ve always been more of the disappear-into-the-woods-Walden-type. That’s actually what I wanted from my Peace Corps experience. My mom even expressed her concerns before I left. She told me she didn’t want me to just wander off one day, sit in the woods, start contemplating life, and never come back. Well, mom, you needn’t have worried. I can barely make it into the woods before a Mongolian wanders by and asks me what I’m doing. I can’t make it more than one kilometer on a run out of town without a motorcycle coming along to “give me a ride back”.

            So, I know why I am ready to go home. I get to retreat into myself again. I can live an independent life. I’ll come out of my shell by choice and not necessity. And I won’t have to explain why I am the way I am.

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